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Tuesday, May 6, 2014

SUCCESS PRINCIPLES #3 - DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT



Bismillah..

Hi everyone, it's a wonderful day. Now, it shows 1am in the morning and my eyes are still fresh...burning in the midnight oil to finish the third Success Principle - Decide What You Want!

In the previous entries, FIRST PRINCIPLE and SECOND PRINCIPLE, we have covered the importance of taking 100% responsibilty and being clear why you are here. And now the third principle is the continuity for both principles.

I recommend you to implement these principles everyday in your life. I will be writing this motivational entry day by day so that it is practical for you to understand it and apply it step by step.

Let's begin.....

The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this : 
decide what you want

Once you have decided why you are here, you have to decide what you want to do, be, and have. What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to experience? And what possessions do you want to acquire? In the journey from where you are to where you want to be, you have to decide where you want to be. In other words, what does success look like to you?

One of the main reasons why most people don't get what they want is they haven't defined their desires in clear and compelling detail.

Early Childhood Programming Often Gets In The Way Of What You Want




Inside of every one of us is that tiny seed of the "you" that you were meant to become. Unfortunately, you may have buried this seed in response to your parents, teachers, coaches, and other adult role models as you were growing up.

You started out as a baby knowing exactly what you wanted. You had no trouble expressing your needs and wants. You simply cried loudly with no inhibitions or holding back until you got what you wanted. As you got older, you crawled around and moved toward whatever held the most interest for you. You were clear about what you wanted, and you headed straight toward it with no fear.

So what happened?
Somewhere along the way, someone said...

Don't touch that!
Stay away from there.
Keep your hands off that.

As you older, you heard....

You can't have everything you want simply because you want it.
Money doesn't grow on trees.
Stop being selfish!
So on and so forth,,,,,

Don't Live Someone Else's Dreams




After many years of these kinds of sanctions, most of us eventually lost touch with the needs of our bodies and the desires of our hearts and somehow got stuck trying to figure out what other people wanted us to do. As a result, we now do a lot of things we don't want to do but that please a lot of other people :

  • We go to medical school because that is what Dad wanted for us
  • We get married to please our mother
  • We get a "real job" instead of pursuing our dream career in the arts
In the name of being sensible, we end up becoming numb to our own desires. It's no wonder that when we ask many teenagers what they want to do or be, they honestly answer, "I don't know."

Not being clear about what you want and making other people's needs and desires more important than your own is simply a habit. You can break it by practicing the opposite habit.

Clarify Your Vision Of Your Of Your Ideal Life

The theme of this entry is how to get from where you are to where you want to be. To accomplish this, you have to know two things - where you are and where you want to get to. Your vision is a detailed description of where you want to get to. 

It describes in detail what your destination looks like and feels like. To create a balanced and successful life, your vision needs to include the following 7 areas : work and career, finances, recreation and free time, health and fitness, relationships, personal goals, and contribution to the larger community.

At this stage in the journey, it is not necessary to know exactly how you are going to get there. All that is important is that you figure out where there is. If you get clear on that WHAT, the HOW will be taken care of!

High Achievers Have Bigger Visions




The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, 
but that it is too low and we reach it.

Don't limit your vision in any way! Let it be as big as it is.
Always dream big dreams. Big dreams attract big people.

It doesn't take any more energy to create a big dream than it does to create a little one.

Superachievers simply dream bigger.

1. John F. Kennedy dreamed of putting a man on the moon.
2. Martin Luther King Jr. dreamed of a country free of prejudice and injustice.
3. Bill Gates dreams of a world in which every home has a computer that is connected to the Internet.
4. Buckminster Fuller dreamed of a world where everybody had access to electrical power.

If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, 
you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is a compromise.


The Vision Exercise

Create your future from your future, not your past.


The following exercise is designed to help you clarify your vision. 

1. First, focus on the financial area of your life. What's your annual income? What does your cash flow look like?How much money do you have in savings and investments? What's your total net worth?

2. Next, visualize your ideal job or career. Where are you working? What are you doing?

3. Then, focus on your free time, your recreation time. What are you doing with your family and friends in the free time you've created for yourself?

4. Next, what is your ideal vision of your body and your physical health?

5. Then move on to your ideal vision of your relationships with your family and friends.

6. What about the personal arena of your life? Do you want to travel to other countries? Do you want to write your autobiography?

7. Finally, focus on the community you live in, the community you've chosen.

Every day, review the vision you have written down. This will keep your conscious and subconscious minds focused on your vision.

Share Your Vision For Maximum Impact

When you've finished writing down your vision, share your vision with a good friend whom you can trust to be positive and supportive. You might be afraid that your friend will think your vision is too outlandish, impossible to achieve, too idealistic, unrealistic, or materialistic.

The truth is, most people, deep down in their hearts, want the very same things you want.

You'll find that when you share your vision, some people will want to help you make it happen. Others will introduce you to friends and resources that can help you.

You'll also find that each time that you share your vision, it becomes clearer and feels more real and attainable. And most importantly, every time you share your vision, you strengthen your own subconscious belief that you can achieve it!